Had occasion to think of that movie quote after an exchange of e-mails with Babs. The reasons why we broke up are not important, except to say that lack of love for one another was not one of them.
A lot of our talking over the past couple of months has been at each other, and not to each other. She struggles to explain the changes in her outlook since discovering God, and I struggle to explain why it doesn't really matter to me that she's a very different person now, emotionally and spiritually. Lots of misunderstandings there, on both sides.
We may never get back together. We may, but not anytime soon. No one can say right now.
But both of us agreed that we don't want to lose what we first found in each other - a best friend, a confidante, a kindred spirit. And so, we begin anew the task of learning who the other is, with our eyes wide open this time.
It occurs to me that a good way to start is by doing what I do best - plagiarize somebody else's best stuff if you can't come up with anything better on your own:
Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things a man needs to believe in the most. That people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love...true love never dies. You remember that, boy. You remember that. Doesn't matter if it's true or not. You see, a man should believe in those things, because those are the things worth believing in.
Wise man, that Hub McCann.
33 pithy observation(s).:
Excellent movie.
I'm still waiting to hear the rest of that speech.
What movie is that from?
And, it's not only men who need to remember those things either.
I'm very sorry to hear about you and Babs, but you both seem to be handling it as well as can be expected. Focus upon the good times, and you'll never feel sad.
God, I sound like a Hallmark card.
Secondhand Lions (2003)
Thanks, rogue medic! I'll have to check that one out.
Sorry, dude.
And good luck, strange as that may sound.
Sorry to hear things didn't work out.
AD,
Sorry to hear things didn't 'zactly go as planned, but good on the both of you for realizing it when you did and not losing the friendship.
You know the addy if'n you need to talk. Just sayin', is all...
AD, I'd like to join the others in saying "sorry it didn't work out"....
I don't know if I should say "I hope everything works out" or "maybe it's for the best; good luck in the future"....
I guess I'll say this: I hope things work out in whatever will be the best way for you and Babs
What a great quote. :)
I hate it when life goes and messes with the rest of life. Hopefully things will work out for the best in the end... whatever that may be.
:)
It's a rough road, but at least you still have the friendship. It's that much harder when your best friend decides she no longer wants to talk to you...
Prayers sent up for both of you guys, okay?
Thanks for the timely reminder. I love that movie and feel that it's a great speech for all young people and not just males. I believe I'm going to go and find that movie and watch it.
Best of luck to you.
To bad...Im glad you two still talk.
Ditto on sending up prayers for both of y'all... (((hugs)))
Hey AD,
I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Unfortunately there are some great people in this world that just aren't good for us. It is nobody's fault, it is just the way it is. Although you and her were not a match, I am certain you learned a lot from the experience, and can move forward with hope and courage.
One thing I will caution you against is remaining too emotionally attached. Being friends is fine, but being too close and emotionally dependent on each other will likely close the door to any future relationships. Not only will you not feel like dating others, or start comparing others to her, you may feel in a way that you are not emotionally available to another person while you are still tied to your ex. Be wary of that.
All the best to you. We all care about you and hope you are doing well, as well as can be expected given the sad circumstances.
Hugs to you.
-Slinky
I'm sorry it didn't work out, but I suspect you are both better people for having been together.
I hestitated to comment on an obviously painful and personal time.
I am so sorry for the pain and frustration you both feel.
As with most things in life, timing is everything. And although it seems pretty lame right now, there is a reason and you will look back on this and understand the what, when, where and why of it all.
I now return to my lurking and keeping my two cents to myself.
I'd just like to add my sympathies to both of you. It has to be tough for you. Good luck and I hope it all works out.
I'm hoping for the very best outcome for both of you. That's a fantastic quote, and those are great words to live by in times of despair or jubliation.
That's a favorite quote of mine, too. I got a whole post out of it once myself.
Let me add my condolences over the change in your relationship as well. I guess all these internet romances can't all work out happily for everyone. Sorry about yours, but it does sound like you're both being adults about it, which is a lot more than you can say for 50+% of relationships these days.
There's a good (if very long) quote about belief from Neil Gaiman's American Gods, too, that I'll post when I get a chance to sit down and type it out. It's one of the best quotes about belief that I've ever come across, and also hands down the longest uncuttable gotta put it all down quote ever.
So sorry to hear that things didn't work out for the two of you. At least you still have your friendship. Hoping things work out for the best for both of you.
I hate to hear the news about you and Babs...may God bless you both no matter what the future holds.
Book it. True love, in fact, NEVER dies.
My thoughts are with you and Babs....
They are great words to live by even if many people chose to turn their back on them, doesn't make the words less valuable or untrue.
Luv that quote- Sorry about the breakup!
I'm really sorry to hear about you and Babs, AD.
I have nothing of real depth to add to these comments. I am happy that you were able to see it coming and then choose to remain friends.
Babs is a woman with a mean streak a hundred miles wide. You didn't lose anything, even if it feels that way right now. You saved yourself from a very unhappy relationship with someone who doesn't practice what she preaches so sanctimoniously.
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